Le 21 novembre 2014, 04:34 dans Humeurs • 0
I'm more resilient. When the divorce hit me I really didn't know if I'd be able to live on my own. My ways of coping with the breakup weren't perfect. While I wanted to avoid drinking, I did have nights of being black-out drunk. I had overbearing, emotional outbursts at others. There were times when I felt completely lost. As I came out of that time period I realized I had more strength than I imagined.
I stopped negative patterns. Prior to the divorce, I had fallen into the routine of not being in the moment. I'd complain about doing anything new even while avoiding things I knew I'd enjoy. I had a short temper that mainly came from not communicating what I needed. The divorce gave me a chance to take a step back and think about why I was acting that way. Being removed from the relationship gave me the space to create new patterns.
I learned about myself. I had been in a relationship from my early twenties to early thirties and didn't take enough time during those years to really think about what I wanted. I prioritized my ex and other people in my life. The divorce gave me freedom to better understand my goals, what I enjoy and who I am without a partner. I went to museums, tried yoga and did things without having to check in with anyone. I realized how important it is to maintain some time for me in any relationship.
I made closer friendships. One thing a divorce is guaranteed to do is test the relationships you have with your friends and family. I lost some friends and realized I wasn't close to as many people as I thought. You also find out who really cares about you. I was honest and vulnerable with people in ways I hadn't been at any point in my life, which made our friendships stronger.Welcome to m-shoesbox sports shoes online store